Posted
1/24/07
It’s
Never Too Late to Start
Throughout many years of teaching I’ve gotten calls from people in
their twenties through sixties saying they always wanted to play the
guitar but didn’t know if it would be too late to start. They think
that if they started when they were younger or in their childhood
years that somehow it would have been easier. My response is, “Of
course not, you can learn anything you want, any time you want, and
whether it’s hard or easy should have nothing to do with it. Just
get started, set realistic goals and just get started.”
The
biggest stumbling block that most people have in this age group is
that they judge themselves too hard as they compare themselves to
their favorite artist/s. They also are always concerned about their
progress, questioning if they’re not
learning
fast enough or that they don’t sound
good.
Most people in
this age group have either just started careers or are well
established in their career and have other responsibilities as well
such as family, so learning the guitar cannot be a number one
priority. So don’t hold on to the well established idea that if
you’re going to learn the guitar, or any instrument for that matter,
that in order to make any progress you’re going to have to practice
thirty minutes to an hour a day and be able to play songs in a month
or two.
Sure, it’s good if you can practice that
much. You will progress faster if you do, but come on, we all know
that’s not always possible. That is no reason for it to stop you
from accomplishing your goal.
So
let’s assume we start with the best possible scenario. You’re an
adult, twenty to sixty years old, total clean slate beginner and you
have thirty minutes to an hour to practice every day. You start
lessons, you practice, you progress and accomplish your goal in
short order and are so happy and thrilled and you should be. That’s
good and that actually does happen sometimes.
Now
let’s look at the same scenario given age and time to practice, but
when you start lessons you find that you struggle. You don’t
coordinate well between the right and left hand or just the
individual use of fingers doesn’t come easy. This is more common,
but with consistent practice time and patience, you will develop
skill and that’s just what you are doing, developing a skill.
Everyone is different, some people learn very fast and for some it
takes longer. If you find you’re in the second category, lengthen
the time frame of your goal. For example, if you thought that in two
or three months you would be playing songs, it may be more like six
months to a year or maybe longer. Also understand that the learning
process can be frustrating at times. By that I mean you can only
learn so much and physically train so much in any certain amount of
time. You need time to let what you learned sink in and time for the
physical skill to develop.
You
also need a teacher who understands this process and is just as
patient. If you have a teacher who gets easily frustrated, it’s not
your fault. Don’t give up, find another teacher.
Here’s another scenario which happens often. As in the previous
example, lets assume the same range of age, twenty to sixty, but
practice time… yeah right, who are you trying to kid. The following
is a true story and many people can find themselves in a similar
situation. A man in his late thirties called asking about lessons
and told me he wanted to be able to play classic rock songs. He
wanted to just be able to strum and sing, and maybe be able play
some riffs as well. But because of the constraints of time, mainly
due to his high stress corporate job, he wouldn’t be able to
practice much, if at all, and wanted to know if I was alright with
that. Sure, that’s no problem with me, because even if the only time
you get to play is once a week you will make progress.
So
the lessons start and I find that the man has had some lessons with
other teachers, but the expectations of the teachers didn’t fit with
what his personal goal was. The lessons were too tedious with
instruction that put him in a situation that was more of a chore,
like work, and required practice time that was just not possible.
My
solution was to show him exactly what he wanted to learn and
explained to him that it may take a longer time frame to accomplish
his goal because chords and strumming are not always the easiest
place for a beginner to start. He was fine with that. I started by
showing him some basic chords. He had a hard time with changing
chords so we only used one chord and focused on the strumming
technique. We added more chords as his skill increased week after
week. He enjoyed the lessons and for the most part was only was able
to play once a week which was during the lesson time.
It
took about two and a half years before he was playing songs. I
think coming to guitar lessons was more of a stress reliever for
him. Sometimes before we started he would vent about work and on one
occasion he set the guitar on his lap and vented for the entire half
hour. He looked at his watch and said “Oh, I gotta go, thanks I’ll
see ya next week”. He never even put his fingers on the fret board.
After a few years went by he would play on the weekends more because
eventually he was able to string together some chord changes and
strum through songs or just parts of songs that he liked.
The
point here is to make this work for you. Determine what your goal is
and find a way to make it work for you. Don’t let yourself get stuck
in a rigid frame of mind that won’t allow you to be flexible. Life
doesn’t always cooperate with our plans, so be ready to adapt,
prioritize your practice time and focus on only a small part of what
you want to learn. With a little time on a consistent basis you will
make progress. Just don’t beat up on yourself and don’t give up.
Check back as I will continue this topic with other true life
scenarios and tips on how to prioritize your practice time so you
can get the most out of whatever amount of time you have.
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